I am lucky to be part of a family of fierce cat lovers. This year, after losing one of our oldest cats, we succumbed (very easily!) to the children’s plea to adopt a pair of young kittens, so we now have 4 cats! I find that saying “yes” to new cats is one of the perks of adulthood.
I adopted all my previous cats as adult rescues, so this is actually my first time with kittens in the house, and I am thoroughly enjoying the experience. As a Montessorian, my natural approach to young beings is based on observation, and sitting back and observing the kittens has given me some lessons and reminders that apply to children too. Let me share some thoughts with you.
I don’t need to force a relationship.
Cats take a while to trust new people. Sharing the space as we go about our day, creating predictable shared routines, and just generally remaining available to them, is a great way to lay the foundations for a strong relationship. I often feel that the same approach works for children who are new in the class environment!
I can't control every interaction.
I can observe and monitor the general level of wellbeing of all members of the family, make sure they all have space and resources. I make sure they all feel safe and confident. If a fight does break out, I can trust them to have the tools to deal with it.
I have to adjust my expectations.
Kittens will be kittens. In fact, kittens should be kittens. The potted plants will be pushed off the shelf. The best time for the “zoomies” will be 2am. It is developmentally appropriate behaviour, and accepting this is the easiest way to reduce frustration.
Cats don’t need us to be or do anything special.
Just be there, be present. Share the time you get to spend together, without expectations or agenda. Which I personally think is a precious lesson on how to be with all humans.
Ludovica Momoi
Hazel Teacher